Idle musing

[jadislefeu]

I spend so much time seeing people be thoroughly frustrated by unwanted/intrusive replies on twitter that it makes me really chary of replying to basically anyone anywhere that I'm not already close friends with, because I've had a deep horror of imposing on and annoying people for most of my life. (I am a very loud and strange person and was rather singularly unpopular in school, because I was annoying. I'm not very good at settings between 'talking incessantly' and 'not talking at all'.) I do a lot of typing out half a comment (or a whole comment), and then deciding I'd better not and closing the tab.

This makes it rather difficult to make new friends, and I really don't know what the solution to that is.

Relatedly, I made a new OKCupid the other day on a whim and have been confronted with the necessity of actually sending messages to people, and man I am not sure how to do that anymore.

Comments

[havocthecat]

Oh, oh, did you also get that "I really like you, but I FIND YOU GREATLY ANNOYING!" bullshit? I was also unpopular in school. People found me uppity and annoying and fuck them. (Talk to me! I don't always reply quickly - or at all, if I'm overwhelmed or migraining, but I promise, that's on me, not on you.)

The solution, I find, (for me, I'm not telling you what to do) is to find friends who don't find me annoying. And to ignore everyone on the internet who posts guides to proper behavior.